Wednesday, 30 September 2015

Signs Your Relationship is Over

In many instances there are big red flags telling you that your relationship is ending but we often ignore them because we do not want to admit its over. Breakups are often painful and awkward especially when its with someone we've been with for a long period of time, but its best to realize when your relationship has run its course instead of putting it off. Breakups are like taking off a band aid, the faster you get if over with the less painful it is. Here are some signs that your relationship is going no where.

1. You Don't Communicate Properly

If you find that you and your significant other are constantly arguing over ever little thing, it might be time to call it quits. Now arguing is a normal part of every relationship, your never going completely agree with someone all the time, but if you can't even agree on little things, this could be a sign that you aren't compatible with this person.

2. You Are Not the Same People You Were At the Beginning of Your Relationship

As time goes by we start to mature and have different out looks on life. How we behaved when we first started a relationship versus who we are now can greatly impact the course of the relationship. You may have found that you had a lot in common with your boyfriend, but now you don't see eye to eye on things. It is possible to mature and grow along side your partner, but you have to admit to yourself when you have grown apart.

3. You Never Talk About the Future

If you haven't been with someone long, then this is a non issue. But if you've been in a relationship with some one long enough that you should be making future plans with them and your not, this is a big red flag. If you're been with someone for years but can't imagine a life with them, then you have to ask yourself what are you two doing with each other? If you should be at the point where you should be thinking of moving in with each other, but neither of you brings it up or is uncomfortable with the idea, then that means you both know your relationship is never going to be that serious and you don't want a life with that person. If this is the case you should be looking for the exist sign immediately, there's no use putting off something you already know.

4. He's Putting Distance Between You Two 

If in the beginning of your relationship he was constantly calling you, making plans for dates or outings and generally wanting to spend lots of time with you, but now you find he can't seem to find the time to fit you into his schedule, something is wrong. If you find your the only one making plans and he is flaking on you to spend time with other people or alone it means he isn't as invested in the relationship as he once was and may even be thinking of breaking up with you, but doesn't know how to say it. There's no point in trying to spend time with someone you doesn't want to spend time with you, better to end things and find someone who does enjoy your company.

5. He Behaves Like He's Single

No one should act like a single person when their in a committed relationship. If you find he is constantly going out partying or hanging out with his friends or family, but not inviting you along, the relationship is done in his mind and this is he's way of letting you know.

6. He Thinks Belittling You Is Okay

It is never, never, NEVER okay for your significant other to think it is okay to disrespect you. If you find  he is insulting you, you need to tell him immediately that this is not okay behaviour and that you want him to stop at once, if he persist in this bad behaviour after being warned, there is only one thing left to do and that is to say goodbye. No one has the right to disrespect someone, especially not someone they are in a relationship with, if your significant other does this it means they don't respect you.

7. Insulting you In front Of Others

Like in number 6, the person you are dating should never disrespect you, especially in public. If they are belittling you in front of family and friends or even strangers, this person is being thoughtless to your feelings and clearly does not respect you. Even worse is if they are doing this behaviour on purpose, if this is the case do not even talk to them about the issue, leave, if this person enjoys humiliating you in public, they are not going to change.


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